False representations can lead to wrong impressions which in turn can distort the basic understanding of the mind. I am thinking about this clear beach while i am sitting on my bed, thinking about what its going to be next.
What is it that i want?
What is it that i really want?
These are the right questions that must be asked.
Anyone who is or had been in love might have felt this supreme ability wonder in the spaces; those pigments of imagination which are a function of imagination of one self. I always believe that things or feelings can be learned only through experiencing them, that too at first hand. Unless one cant have Empathy.
Empathy, really is the most important thing that we need to connect, to socialize.
The other day when i was watching ' the left foot', what i recall as the best scene enacted by Daniel Day Lewis was the one which Christy was invited to the paintings exhibition by Eileen and after the same they along with Peter, the fiancee of Eileen, which Christy later discovers in the party, were celebrating.
Christy, played by Lewis is a handicap and a talented painter. When Christy proposes Eileen in the party, she discloses her relationship with Peter. Knowing that Christy, revealed a plethora of melancholy in way which is so intense, so surreal and of the depth, which is highly affecting.
The lines like ..
" Con.....Con( Christy also has problem in speaking)
Con.....
Con..gratulations"
The word Con is the right expression to what he felt. He was conned. Then later takes it quite nicely and becomes a successful artist.
My point here to describe this scene here is to point out the importance of Empathy.
As we all are individuals who are unique from the core, no matter how similar we try to become on the outside. Therefore in a subliminal activity like love, its only the empathy on which we rely on. The kind of lifestyle we have assumed for ourselves its very difficult for us to comply with other small things.
When you travel and survey different people and their relationships. Their matter of communication, expression and involvement is a study of human behavior. And if its not rocket science, its not even less than that!
Now i have seen people, i have seen how beautifully they emerge out as bright colors out of complete chaos. Its because their roots were strong, they knew their identity, they knew from where they have come from.
10 years hence, people of my age and I might have a new ambiance around me. There will be changes, challenges and opportunities. But what is more important is how will we react to these changes?
To this point i must bring into the attention, the case of a person, about whom i had read.
The name of the person is Mahdeva, he was the son of a mother who abandoned the village she lived and came to the city, Bangalore. There she and her son live by a city hospital. Her mother used to work hard to feed her child. When Mahadeva was about 10 she died due to illness and a old man gave him a place to live.
Mahadeva used to do small errands for the hospital patients and earn a livelihood just enough to survive.
One day Police official came with an unclaimed corpse and asked Mahadeva to bury it and for that he paid him Rs.200. He did the job with absolute dedication and that earned him the reputation of being an undertaker of unclaimed dead bodies. Cops used to pay him the same amount and he did it like a profession.
Soon he bought a horse pulled rickshaw. But then after some years the horse died and he got a autorickshaw.
No petrol pump used to charge him for the work he did. He got the picture of horse on the rickshaw and that became his brand of the business.
The ability to do a job no matter how is the nature of it, with absolute dedication and without supervision got him the trust of the neighborhood. And that is quality of a true professional.
So dont forsee in the exactness of where we might land in the future but what we can do is to appreciate the fact that life is how we perceive it. The more mature individuals we can become only if we learn to empathise and then the actions will in its own with become purer.
Restraint is not discipline. Discipline is like a string to which a kite is tied. You know the balance, but at the same time the primary purpose of string is not to pull the kite but to let it fly up in the air.
My teacher, on independence day many years back, came into the class and we all wished him for the day.
And he asked
Are you Independent?
It rang in my ears whole night that day.
Next day i got into a argument with him for the whole lecture. He just smiled most of the times.
Then he said-" Son, don't relish on something which you have not earned for yourself, it should be treated like a heritage instead. Also independence is real only when we are independent at mind. Unless you dont have the ability to think free, you are not independent really."
Its the judgement that defeats us.
If you think thats not the case then rewind and think of all the times where if you would have not have been conscious of barriers, you could have lived perhaps a bit more!
And that's not hedonism, that is freethinking.
