Expectations

An axiom says that expectations are the root cause of friction in relationships. If you expect nothing then there is no question about grief with the outcome. A highly held hindu Spiritual Gita also establishes the above mentioned principle as an important guideline for a happy and contented life.

But is it possible to expect nothing from the work in which you have put in your convictions?
Is it possible to expect nothing from your very beloved one, the one you think about every passing second?
This is a very relevant question in lieu of this complex mechanism named as love. First of all one is not very sure about what to expect from a soul which is different from your own one.
Another issue is the medium of expression. One study about human behavior makes an interesting point in this regard. Males are very responsive to visual stimulation and their brain adopts the sensitive information much more through pictorial representations, colors and contours. All this happens unconsciously as
their mind interprets even the most subtle emotional and sensitive cues through sensual stimulation which is physical. That is the reason that males are mostly given to pictorial representations, scenic beauty and may be in some cases to pornography.This doesn't mean that their is lesser sense of emotionality present in men; on the other hand its very intense and concentrated. They may not be even be able to state the reason of their like or dislike about a thing or person because of this style of working of mind unless introspected honestly.

Females on the other hand rely mostly on past experiences which acts as major decision making tool for them and more importantly sensitivity. This system when applied to complex emotions such as love produces various vacillating thought processes. This is the probable reason for male thinking is attributed to rationality and female thinking with sensitivity.
However these observations are not hard and fast since a lot many other variables too play in together to produce millions of different traits. But the above observations are resultant to primordial biological roles which genders had. Male developed high specialization in spatial and long distance visibility for surviving in the wild and female on the other hand developed the role of nurturing and protection of young ones, thereby becoming specialized in attention to detail in nearby area and sensitive as a mother.

This is the reason why males seldom find things in the cupboards or food in refrigerator but are adept in warfare via sensing danger from a distance.

This is about the method of registering deeper emotions in the two genders.Now the same obviously produces differences in the method of expression.

So if you are expecting something which is very special to you but is grossly overlooked or misinterpreted by your partner then probably this is the time to move on.

Also when the world is fast changing and equally competitive there is little scope for emotional expectations to be met in the way you like. At a young age and specially when its your first love then it hurts a lot when the other partner is not in rhythm to what you would like to.

In the end a another observation for all of those in love.

'A Boy will always prefer to meet in person with his girl( Visual Stimulation) rather than texting a message and a girl will listen or make note of the conversation very carefully; if possible will also relate it to earlier talks done on the same matter.'
Same kind of feelings exist in both of them but reception and expressions are different. That is what which makes it all very interesting.

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