Some years back when i was in secondary schooling chetan and i used to love this subject called social science. Although medieval history was bit boring but it was modern post renaissance period which piqued my interest.
My favorite characters were Hitler, Gandhi(though i was hurt with Bhagat singh's incident), Raja ram mohan rai, Vallabh Bhai Patel and Indira Gandhi.
These guys were reformers actually. I remember there used be a very clisqhed topic about emancipation of women. I mean whenever this topic came for an essay writing people used almost didactic and cold way of presenting their thoughts. The topic is sensitive and deserved a serious thought process in from the first principles.
Its quite interesting to note that many of my female classmates had adopted a very predictable nicer than thou attitude when an open question was thrown by my teacher. If you need to understand a subject which is related to human affairs the thought process can start very near to you. I mean you can take a cursory view of the life of your mother or sister. Then one can include in a step by step manner the view point of women present in different economic and social strata of our society.
Please don't say a nicer than thou attitude will help here.One has to be less emotional but at the same time sensitive to the issues which are faced commonly in our female counter parts.
Chetan helped me to understand the division of responsibility when it comes to male and female gender. I seriously noted that point and decided then to take this initiative to a step further by having an open discussion with our then stalwart science and civics teachers. Being in a Coed school located in suburbs of the city i got very informative insights on the subject. Also my maternal relatives who live in tier 3 city helped enormously in broadening my viewpoint by including the dynamics of a joined family. Then i had few of my mates outside the school kins of my dad's few officers and my coaching mates; all of them were distinct as they unbiasedly represented new cultural modernistic and economically sound footings.
Well my sample size for the research was rich as it had diversity but i was still bothered about the validity of my study. So i asked some helped from mentor cum friend cum 'wise' principal which he gladly conceded to me. So i started most of the time debating with my female classmates about the issues and seriously made the points of each of them. I registered a lot of data in form of questions then from every possible female in my peer group.
In the end i presented the data to my mentors. Following were the main points which still stand in conformation of my beliefs.
1. When we talk of gender bias, we in the first place are instigating a feeling of separatism in our class rooms and work places. These are the places where already equal opportunity in terms of resources is provided. Still if some one is having leverage only because of his or her's gender then something is wrong in either in the individual perceptions. One should not concede any benefit or banishment purely on the grounds of gender.
2. One of the most important and widely overlooked point is that some women themselves, have acclimatised with the norm of distorted balance of power between man and woman. They have misunderstood this as something which is burdened upon them by nature. Females conforming to this view point also takes great pains to ingrain the same principles in the newer generation.
3. Surprisingly,a huge strata of Educated and Economically sound society, on the one hand make decent efforts in education of their girl children but on the other hand when it comes to deep rooted culturally institutionalized processes such as marriage they follow the uneducated herd and apply the same orthodox rules.
Its a pity state of affairs that our female counterparts who are educated to the level of doctors, engineers, Phds shunt their career post marriage and in a way hurting the national economy.
A simple reasoning can say that if a doctor ceases to do her job and is contented with household work then first the nation looses one highly skilled human resource and second one low skilled labor looses her job for household work.
If we want to see a change in our life style then it is our duty to work about it, similarly it is only women and particularly young ones who can work for the change and see the change right from their own surroundings.
I hope these coarser but true lines will help to see my point.
" i dont want to be a product of my environment i want my environment to be a product of me."
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