Predicament

The most heartbreaking thing about my current predicament is that I m not in control of the things which are happening to me. I have always maintained an understood truce with me that only I’ll be taking decisions of my life and therefore I shall be the sole person responsible for whatever good or bad outcomes. The same is the way I believe should be done for at least those people who are around me. After all every one has a right to maintain his or her individuality.
That is freedom for me. The very idea that some one else, even if revered and well wisher of mine takes decisions for me and thereby controlling my life is totally unacceptable.
Thankfully my promoters have always maintained it and never questioned the sustainability of those decisions.
How can a soul which is different than me can take away this right and say its good for me? I mean how good it is depends how much stakeholder I was in maintaining this belief.
Than to make matter worse people have certain inhibitions, prejudices, inclinations for making quick judgments. Why can’t they ask that poor soul just one time that does my way of doing this hurts you? Every one has some set of emotions which are a peculiar and sensitive part of their existence so they by every mean are entitled to the right for deciding the best course available. And what does it matter even if that is not that right.

But they simply don’t seem to care for that. They don’t know that while doing this someone’s respect for them is getting permanently jeopardized which is inevitable in the present circumstances.

I know not every one is awarded the right to speak up to state their point of view but seriously mate nothing is given just like that, you have to take it to make things done your way.

Speaking of prejudices, which are formed on the basis of past experiences; and other sources such as peers, assertive parental ‘advices’ the mindset of an individual becomes myopic and even more serious- overtly generalized.
Let’s see some of unsaid over generalized statements which can always cost some one dear in their life.
1. All those who study hard, get good grades, follow well defined and previously successful career path live good, happy and contented life.
2. Judgments made on the basis of physical appearance and shallow analysis of individuals.
3. My past relationships were broken because of my this habit so if I carry on with it I will surely be facing trouble with the next one.
4. Love and Career just don’t go together. Why? Because I have seen many doing badly when they are not focused and cant concentrate on ‘other important things’.
5. What will people say if I tell them I did ……. Blah blah…


6. Love marriages seldom fetch any ‘good’ results as its about catering self interests on the cost of high held repo. of concerned and also there develops clashes between the couple over a period of time. Or Arrange marriages seldom fetch any ‘good’ results as its all about compromise.
7. Girls are meant to do this. Boys are meant to do that. You should do this but not that because what people will think.

Whenever I hear such plebeian holier than thou attitude people the only thing that crosses my mind is – Lord please forgive them because they don’t know what they are doing.

Who decides what makes or breaks my concentration. Who decides is my definition of success. Some people may consider it wise to buy a home first then a car but what if I am unwise and want to do it other way?
What maximum wrong can happen? And seriously mate people don’t have time to see us and you know what I don’t have time to think about them.
Life is a limited overs game and our power play has already been exhausted still there is a huge pile of runs we are chasing. If we waste time and mind on what audience is thinking we simply cant play the way we should i.e. OUR WAY which is natural and not some smart ass’ ADVICE.